New Year, New Me?


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We all know the phrase all too well. You know, the “New Year, New Me” one. And honestly, as much as it makes my blood boil a little, I’ve said that phrase before too many times in my younger years. But Looking back on it, it was JUST a phrase. There was nothing new about me on January 1st, except for the new hair do I got for New Years Eve. I made plans on changing, but because I had no accountability, I continued to be the same old Melissa, doing the same old things I did the year before. I have learned that change is hard and if you don’t have someone to keep you accountable for letting go of your old ways, you’ll just end up in the same routine doing the same things over and over again. You’ll eventually end up in a cycle. I can only talk about it because of experience though, and with experience comes some type of wisdom. This year, of course I have some new years resolutions, but these are things I started working on since last year that I just want to perfect and get better at. So I’ve decided to let you all in on my “resolutions for 2016” so that you guys can help keep me accountable.

              But before we get into that, lets get into something deeper. If you are anything like me, you probably are in need of a change too, want to get better at something or wanting to leave old habits behind. Maybe you’re trying to lose weight, or maybe your attitude needs some adjusting (like me), or maybe you’re battling with purity (something I struggled with for a while)… who knows. But whatever it is, you need a change for a healthier lifestyle and healthier results. But where does one start? How can someone just wake up and not be the person they were yesterday, when they’ve been the same way all their lives. “That’s just the way I am” is a sorry excuse for anyone to not want to change the way they are, knowing that their ways are damaging to not only themselves, but to others. Well, first thing is first, and we’ve all heard it before “The first step is to admit that something is wrong.” Once you’ve established that there is a problem, your body, your mind, and your soul can establish it as well. Secondly, write down one by one each and every issue you have to work on and the steps you need to take to accomplish your goal. To do that, you have to be honest with yourself or you’ll continue to play it safe and find yourself in a rut.

One thing about change that is key is SACRIFICE and HONESTY. You have to let something go, or not do something anymore to get a different result. If you’re not willing to do that, then change is not for you. Some people aren’t willing to do what is necessary to see a difference in their life. If you’re trying to lose weight, don’t eat late at night, and to do so you might have to start going to bed early. Trying to stay pure? Avoid being out late nights with the opposite sex; maybe you’ll have to set your phone on ”Do Not Disturb” after a certain time so that you wont receive texts and phone calls. Want to stop watching porn? Cut your Internet off your phone. I don’t know what it is, but you’re going to have to let something go to gain something else. Change your routine around. Don’t keep doing the same thing and expecting different results (I’m preaching to myself right now) That is insanity! To think your norm will bring about change. If you want change, you’re going to have to be UNCOMFORTABLE. There are things you’re going to have to do that you’ve never done before, that might require you to step out of your comfort zone. When doing so, it will get harder, but things will get better. Remember to keep your eyes on your journey only. One of the downfalls that we as people seem to fall in is looking at someone else’s pathway and comparing your life to theirs. I’ve been there before; focusing on how slow my process was compared to my neighbor’s speedy recovery. It can be so discouraging and draining, because you start to convince yourself that change is a waste of time.

But most importantly, pray. Pray for strength, pray for understanding, and pray for perseverance. Its so easy to do bad, but it’s the doing good that takes effort, time and patience. But Galatians 6:9 says is perfectly, “So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up.” Don’t quit, change is on the other side of your sacrifice.

Sacrifice is Key to Change

Ok….. so as I promised, I’ve decided to share with you and let you all in on what I’m trying to accomplish for 2016. Honestly though, I am super terrified to do this because I know that after I put it out there, a lot of my family and friends are going to be on my case about getting things done. And sometimes, I just rather be lazy and do nothing. But I know that laziness reaps an empty barn. So, how can I expect a harvest if I don’t work right? Exactly. So step into the world of what my life will consist of in 2016

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  • Write and Finish my book to be published and sold in 2017! #NAKED[/one_fifth]

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  • Become a better person all around

I want to become a better Daughter to God and my parents, a better sibling, a better family member, a better co-worker and a better friend. I am a firm believer that you have to first become what you want, so the change starts with me.[/one_fifth]

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  • Spend more time with my family

I’m so bad at this, and I shouldn’t be. Growing up, family has always been the most important thing in my life. But lately I haven’t made the time to just go and spend quality time with my aunts, uncles and cousins. This new year, at least once a week I want to go and bask in their presence[/one_fifth]

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  • Buy My Car

I am so bad with money, and I convinced myself that my finances are under control when indeed they aren’t. So this goal just goes hand in hand with getting better at managing my money, and that way I can save up enough for a brand new car. Pray that I get a better job as well (that’s a whole other story)[/one_fifth]

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  • Eat Healthier

No more fast food? NO! How am I supposed to survive? Its what my budget can afford though! McDonalds I love you!! This by far has to be one of the hardest goals on my list. Why? Well, because eating junk makes me feel so good when I indulge in it, especially on days when its that time of the month and I’m emotional. But as I get older, I realize the changes in my body and I do not like it. I’m always bloated, I have arm fat and my backside just sits there. But most importantly, junk food makes me extremely lazy and gives me no life! So I am quitting on the junk and investing in a healthier lifestyle. More greens, more veggies and more WATER![/one_fifth_last]

Now, I can go on and on about the things I want to accomplish this year, but these are my top five goals for 2016. So my challenge to you now is to write down your top five goals, figure out how you’re going to accomplish them, and let someone who can hold you accountable read it. I promise, it will help so much to get things done the right way and becoming a better version of yourself.