Thirty Years Of Bliss


On Sept 4th 2017 I hit such a huge milestone in my life that I’m viewing as the beginning of something new; I turned thirty. 

Yup thats right, Three decades full of life, love, living, mistakes, failing, falling, joy, brokenness, immaturity, lots of risks, happiness, unworthiness, heavy partying, and lots of lessons. I can go on and on about the many things I've been through in the past 10,950 days (Thats how long I’ve been living, sheesh! Lol) And honestly, I wouldn’t have it no other way. All those good and bad things that I have experienced have shaped me to who I am today and have inspired me to become an even better woman. if you read my last post, you’ll know how turning thirty was freaking me out. I was losing it! (Go read about it here) I guessed I over reacted because it really isn’t as bad as I thought it was. Ive been 30 for 14 days now and its the most exhilarating thing ever. I feel more adult-ish in some weird way and I'm still struggling and working with the bad habits when I was 29 (hugs)


In honor of my birthday I decided to share the top 30 lessons I’ve learned in the last thirty years. And believe it or not, I actually had to narrow it down because of the amount of lessons Ive learned. 


  • Just because you feel it or think it doesn’t make it true
  • Trust your woman intuition, it never lies
  • Not all men are the same & not all stay the same either
  • Not everyone is going to like you no matter how hard you try to please them 
  • Social media does not validate your relationship
  • Comparison is the first step to hate/jealousy
  • Actions are way louder than words. Trust me
  • Credit score DOES matter
  • Saving money isn't for just you. You'll have mouths to feed one day
  • The more you put away communicating effectively, the more incompetent you become
  • Just because they laugh with you, doesn’t make them for you
  • You’ll always need a mentor, despite how old you are.
  • Therapy isn’t for crazy people only. Seek help if needed. 
  • Thugs are temporary, they don’t marry 


  • The Older you get, the more active you need to be
  • You don't have to win every argument. Choose your battles wisely
  • Sex does not equal love. 
  • Its ok to cry, its ok to be sad, don't let anyone convince you otherwise
  • No matter how far you run, God will never turn you away when you try to come back 
  • Watching church online is not the same as attending
  • You get in what you put out. PERIOD.
  • You can only control yourself, stop trying to change people.  
  • Forgiveness will set you free, peace is worth it.
  • People will talk about you. Whatever you do, DO NOT RESPOND!
  • A man can sleep with you and still not want you 
  • You can still be soft while being strong
  • When you remain angry, you have no room in your mind to find fault in yourself
  • Lose those friends that always take your side
  • Assumptions never end good. 

I learned a lot more of course but these were definitely top of the list. I'm so excited about the journey ahead of me and though it may have started off a little rough (another story for another post) I know for a fact with God on my side I'm destined for greatness. The Best Is Yet To Come For Me! You just watch and see :)



For here’s what I’m going to do: I’m going to take
you out of these countries, gather you from all over,
and bring you back to your own land. I’ll pour pure
water over you and scrub you clean. I’ll give you a
new heart, put a new spirit in you. I’ll remove the
stone heart from your body and replace it with a
new heart thats’s God-willed, not self-willed. I’ll put
my spirit in you and make it possible for you to do
what i tell you and live by commands.
— Ezekiel 36: 24-28
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