I Matter Too


In this generation, men and women are really going out of their way to spend more quality time with themselves. We call it "self care." Now it may be hard to believe this, but I know a couple of people who have no idea what self care is. Not because they've never heard of it, but because they're just too busy to take some time out to take care of them. I get it though, especially as a woman; I sometimes find myself becoming so wrapped up in my life, that I forget that I matter too. From work, being an entrepreneur, school, family, blogging, maybe being a parent, a caretaker, a creator, creating content, handling social media handles, juggling home and friends, your nine to five.. I'm pretty sure a lot of us can admit that life can become a bit overwhelming. And I can understand that the absolute last thing on a busy persons mind is taking time out to relax. But lets get real people, everyone needs to take some personal time to take care of themselves or you'll eventually end up burning yourself out if you don't.  

Speaking from personal experience, self care is something that has been such a pivotal part of my growth. Its in the times where I am taking care of myself that I am more open, more willing to evolve and more open to truth. So what is it? Why are people so reluctant to participate in self care? Why is it that our daily lives become more important than our inner life. So then I thought, maybe people don't know what to do to take care of themselves. Different people have different ways that they do their "self care rituals. Some people write, some people watch their favorite television shows, some do facials, some light up incense, and others cook. Whatever it is, during that time they are indulging in something that helps them relax and become one with themselves. I decided to write this blog post to give readers a few examples of how I nurture my soul when I need some refreshing and in hopes you'll be inspired to do the same if you just don't know what to do. So lets begin.. 


  • Sitting in Silence


Listen to me very well when I say this, "Silence is Golden." One of the most important things for me to do to take better care of myself and reboot, is to sit in complete silence with no interruptions. And I'm sure you're thinking, "Really Melissa? How does that help?" Well here's a fun fact about your girl, I'm the kind of person that gets slightly overwhelmed when surrounded by people for a long period of time. And it may not seem like it, but I become  extremely anxious around different people (especially if its my first time meeting them). So whenever I get home from a long day of having conversations, figuring out what to say, trying not to sound weird.. one of the very first things I do is put my phone on airplane mode, turn everything off, close my laptop and just sit there and detox all the noise I took in for the day. And by doing that, it allows me be in control of what I decide to take in and what I decide to reject from that day. It sounds crazy, but its really a daily cleanse for me, so don't knock it until you try it. Take some time out to just sit in silence and tell me how it goes, you're going to love it!


  • Prayer & Meditation

"Gosh Melissa, you're so spiritual!" Hey, say what you want, but If God is for me, who can be against me? (Romans 8:31). This verse alone is the reason why talking to God is apart of my self care routine. Prayer and meditation is all about relationship and a simple conversation between God and I, and its those conversations that stops a lot of people from getting cursed out by me lol. No, but seriously, prayer has been the key to what has both humbled and  protected me. I make sure to pray and meditate not only on the word of God, but on how I choose to start my day. Ask anyone who prays early morning before heading out, and they'll all tell you the same thing.. "Theres something about prayer that keeps me sane and keeps me grounded despite what kind of day I'm having. Quality time with my Lord and Savior always leaves me feeling like I can conquer any mountain that may stand in my way, leaves me feeling confidant, refreshed, motivated and places me in a position to view things in a more positive perspective. Worship, prayer and diving into my word (Bible), is what keeps me near Christ at all times, building that relationship with Him day after day.


  • At Home Facials

Not only is it important to take care of  whats on the inside of your body such as your soul, your mind, your integrity... but its also vital to take care of what's on the outside of your body as well, such as your skin (both body and face). My face is something that is pretty important to me because I know its the first thing people see when they meet me. So of course I want it to look its best at all times. I've searched high and low for different products that would take my face from mess to "Yeeeesssssss" and I finally figured out what works. A couple months ago, I recorded a video for my Youtube channel of my morning skin care routine that helped me get rid of my dark spots (watch here) and it has honestly made a drastic difference. Taking care of my skin gives me a boost of confidence knowing that I look my best on the outside because when you look good, you feel good and when you feel good, you act good lol.


  • reading

Growing up not only did I love to write but my father made sure reading was something I'd learn to love as well. We read for 30 mins Mon - Fri to enhance our reading skills. And honestly, I'm so happy that I was raised in that way. Reading takes me away, it allows me to escape into words. Its extremely therapeutic. Now a days, my favorite kind of books to read are the ones that talk about entrepreneurship as women because I'm currently working on being my own boss. I get to educate myself with new words, get into storylines, get attached to characters, and fall in love with authors and their stories whether fiction or not. No matter what book it is, I'm always down to take in words with my eyes and escape a little.

A well-read woman is a dangerous creature
— Lisa Kleypas
  • setting goals

I have to know where I'm going and what I'm doing to better nurture the woman that I am and the one I'm working on becoming. And I can only do that by setting goals to further my purpose. Melissa, how is setting goals a way to participate in self care? Easy, it trains me to be disciplined, organized and consistent. When you have things in order, life is made a bit easier, more free and less hectic. Statistics show that people who are organized and have routine are more happier than the ones who don't. Its a way for me to really put my future in order and know whats next. READY, SET, GOAL! :)


I want to thank you guys for reading this post about self care. I wrote this for the person who doesn't know where to start when it comes to their self care, the busy mom who never has the time, and the hard workers who always put themselves last. You matter! Yes You Do! You only have one mind and one body, so please take care of it. For those who have more tips and advice on your self care ritual, I'd love to hear all about them. Lets chats in the comments :)



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